Tuesday, August 14, 2007

On a Serious Note...

The 15th marks the Yarzheit of Poker Chick's mother. Oh wait, no it's not. It's her birthday. Correction. It was her birthday. On an August 15th, she came into the world. On a May 3rd, she left it. But we don't acknowledge birthdays after someone's gone. Why the heck is that? After all, if your mother died on a May 3rd, wouldn't you rather forget that day rather than be haunted years later by visions of finding her "expired"* in her bed? Wouldn't you rather celebrate her life? But apparently that's not how it works. You're supposed to think of them on their "Yarzheit". So this leaves Poker Chick feeling confounded and alone on August 15th. There's no candle to light. No service to attend. Just constant guilt and confusion, feeling like you should be doing something else, something other than pretending today is just any other day (for example, Big Boy is celebrating the day by getting a repeat thyroid biopsy; the first one was suspicious or non-diagnostic or whatever term doctors like to give it when they f*cked up).

Why is this? After years of life, why is it that we only remember people on the day they died? Can someone please explain this to Poker Chick?


*This was the term the doctors and nurses used. You think Poker Chick'd make that sh*t up?

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Theres no reason Poker Chick can't light a candle in her own form of rememberance.

ALM said...

Light a yarzheit. Have a cake with a candle in it.

Emily said...

Here's what I did for my mother's birthday a few weeks ago...
http://wheelsonthebus.wordpress.com/2007/08/03/the-shadows-they-cast/

Ms.Athena said...

I always go out and celebrate Mommy's birthday - if she hadn't been here, I wouldn't have been here - its a reason to party - I always go out and celebrate her life - I do something she liked to do - in her honor....

Anonymous said...

I agree that this day should be remembered. In fact, August 15th always strikes more of a cord with then the actual Yartzheit. I believe that this specific day is a good one. Case in point: my friend Ramon took his GMAT exam this 8/15...and guess what, he scored a 730!